If you’re on the road to I do/in a serious relationship and you notice anything you’d like your potential spouse to improve on, speak up! Don’t overlook it, that’s unwise. Don’t nag but don’t keep silent, especially if it’s causing friction between you both. If you’re willing to accept it now without saying anything about it, you have to be willing to accept it in the marriage. Don’t deceive yourself; too many couples turn a blind eye to some negative traits and it’s when they get married that their eye open up and the DRAMA begins. Each one of us has areas we need to work on, and we must be willing to keep working on ourselves particularly if our attitudes, character, behavior gets in the way of our relationships. When I meet singles who claim to love everything about their potential spouse, I become uneasy and already know they are headed for trouble.
Don’t be carried away by fairytales and unrealistic perceptions and expectations. There is nothing wrong with being observant and requesting some adjustments in each other (you must also be willing to do same). Please note that this should be done with wisdom; be respectful and kind, and not rude and harsh. Marriage is a growing and learning institution and it requires the students in it to be open to growth and positive changes. If you speak up and that potential spouse refuses to do anything about your concerns, think VERY well before you proceed! Don’t say they will get better in the marriage. Its not automatic!!! It’s not marriage that will change them, it is their willingness to change that will provoke any changes that are needed. Be wise! If you are unsure or need help on how to go about this, please prayerfully seek godly counseling!
Kemi oyedepo.
I hope you were blessed by what you just read, Mrs. Kemi oyedepo is a wonderful woman of God, she’s the wife of the resident pastor of living Faith Church Canaan land ota pst. David Oyedepo jr . She’s on a mission to help family stand, equipping, educating and enriching your family life.
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