If you want to create the life of your dreams, then you are going to have to take 100% responsibility for your life as well. That means giving up all your excuses, all your victim stories, all the reasons why you can’t and why you haven’t up until now, and all your blaming of outside circumstances. You have to give them all up forever.
You have to take the position that you have always had the power to make it different, to get it right, to produce the desired result. For whatever reason—ignorance, lack of awareness, fear, needing to be right, the need to feel safe—you chose not to exercise that power. Who knows why? It doesn’t matter.
The past is the past. All that matters now is that from this point forward you choose—that’s right, it’s a choice—you choose to act as if (that’s all that’s required—to act as if) you are 100% responsible for everything that does or doesn’t happen to you.
All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you.
WAYNE DYER
You will never become successful as long as you continue to blame someone or something else for your lack of success.
If you are going to be a winner, you have to acknowledge the truth—it is you who took the actions, thought the thoughts, created the feelings, and made the choices that got you to where you now are. It was you!
You are the one who ate the junk food.
You are the one who didn’t say no!
You are the one who took the job.
You are the one who stayed in the job.
You are the one who chose to believe them.
You are the one who ignored your intuition.
You are the one who abandoned your dream.
You are the one who bought it.
You are the one who didn’t take care of it.
You are the one who decided you had to do it alone.
You are the one who trusted him.
You are the one who said yes to the dogs.
In short, you thought the thoughts, you created the feelings, you made the choice, you said the words, and that’s why you are where you are now.
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Scientists used to believe that humans responded to information flowing into the brain from the outside world. But today, they’re learning instead that we respond to what the brain, on the basis of previous experience, expects to happen next.
Doctors in Texas, for example—studying the effect of arthroscopic knee surgery—assigned patients with sore, worn-out knees to one of three surgical procedures: scraping out the knee joint, washing out the joint, or doing nothing.
During the “nothing” operation, doctors anesthetized the patient, made three incisions in the knee as if to insert their surgical instruments, and then pretended to operate. Two years after surgery, patients who underwent the pretend surgery reported the same amount of relief from pain and swelling as those who had received the actual treatments. The brain expected the “surgery” to improve the knee, and it did.
Why does the brain work this way? Neuropsychologists who study expectancy theory say it’s because we spend our whole lives becoming conditioned. Through a lifetime’s worth of events, our brain actually learns what to expect next—whether it eventually happens that way or not. And because our brain expects something will happen a certain way, we often achieve exactly what we anticipate.
This is why it’s so important to hold positive expectations in your mind. When you replace your old negative expectations with more positive ones—when you begin to believe that what you want is possible—your brain will actually take over the job of accomplishing that possibility for you. Better than that, your brain will actually expect to achieve that outcome.
Thank you for reading. Shalom
Cued from success principles
There are several mental attitudes that have encouraged failure in the lives of many people. All that you see in a man finds root in his mind so actions are mere expressions of one’s mind. For every character flaw to be corrected, start from the mind. On that note here are tips to set you on that journey to transforming your mind and ultimately, where you end up in life.
LOW SELF ESTEEM (LSE): The feeling or the mindset that brings a man to a position where he believes, either consciously or subconsciously, that he is not good enough; that he is perpetually in a state of disadvantage and there’s always something he to do to meet up to a standard.
It is a terrible mindset because it produces terrible fruits. The foolishness of many people in the society is motivated by this mindset.
When low self-esteem is mature it ushers in aggression, extravagant ce, pride and a desire to make others inferior in order to your show relevance. Imagine an instance where ladies constantly borrow to look good saying it’s packaging. That just makes things complicated.
LSE is one of the causes of impatience especially amongst young people. We rush into so many things and end up as casualties. LSE is also responsible for back biting and gossip. When you are determined to find out things you will always find something even when they are not there.
MINDSET THAT LEADS TO UNCULTURED USE OF WORDS:
Many of us have killed the destiny and dreams of people because of this gate called our mouth. Pressure to say things that shouldn’t be could set in motion a series of terrible events. Set a watch over your mouth.
We have constantly gotten ourselves into trouble because of our mouth. We should learn to know when to speak and when to keep shut!
The height of mental maturity is knowing when to speak and when to listen. There’s a due season for communication.
These are some of the things that make leaders out of people, because someday, somebody will say something about your life, your ministry or your business. May we not run our mouths in the presence of our enemies and so put ideas in their heads. I pray God makes and gives us the gift of friends that have discipline with words. We should learn to treat people with honour and respect.
It takes more than certificate to reign in life
Never be under pressure to prove your innocence
There is a law “you can do nothing against the truth, but for the truth”.
As long as success is about you, you must be talked about
Be comforted by the immutability of kingdom laws, don’t be under pressure to prove the truth.
You can’t hide truth for long
I pray we receive grace to show courtesy and honour men
Don’t hit things in a way that scatters the opportunities of tomorrow because you are trying to respond to the pain of today.
If someone offends you handle the situation in wisdom
When people honour you, reciprocate it and you will become a friend to everybody.
Lastly, THE MENTALITY OF ENDURANCE : Many people will not taste of the fruit of true success because they gas out on the journey to greatness.
You have to endure a lot; hardship, disappointment, heartbreak, losses etc.
Never want my crown until you see the scars on my hand
Never trivialise a prosperous man
Never give up, when you do, you make the prophecy of critics true.
At every given point in your life the number of people that love you out weigh the ones that hate you. As a man thinketh in his heart so is he.
You should know that the resultant effect of this transformation is THE MINDSET OF CHRIST (Phil 2:5). ]]>
We give offerings and ask God to accept it,
As a sweet smelling savor, when it came out stricken from our dirty pockets the ugliest amongst the notes we labor………
Some don’t give at all, but they have got time for boo’s junks,
Who protects you from the illness that accompanies those booze and junks?
The call to Christianity is full time, no strike, leaves or shut downs.
Now these may sound like noise to your ears,
It should be an era of rising stars but Christians are lagging sir.
Girls are more concerned about implant and makeup; they forget the God that made-up to bear our sins on the cross he took up.
We say we are more than conquerors, but little rumors get us fidgeting…….
But God has not given us the spirit of fear, but of boldness and of a sound mind, for conquest and to contest the fairy darts of the devil.
Our eyes has been shut to the realization of the truth and so we seek it in social media and magazines that leaves us ignorant making lies sound true, so we believe it.
We should be slow to speak and quick to listen but the reverse has become the case, because we must speak and they listen.
We are quick to deny the gospel, because we want to fit in to the world where we were designed to be misfits.
Who say sex and seduction are the only ways to find love?
So our ladies undress to show the world, what their spouse alone should be seeing.
It is a weak mentality filled with diversity of abnormalities
We ought to be the light of the world, but we have become even darker than darkness itself….
Let our lives be mirror images of the one we represent consciously or unconsciously,
There’s more to life than we see.
Our generation is blessed, but our mindset is a mess
Change your ideologies, let God help you, you are unique! ]]>